Category: General Ideas
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Managing Limerence
Managing Limerence What is limerence? More and more I hear the word limerence being dropped in therapy sessions. The term was coined by psychologist Dorothy Tennov in the book Love and Limerence back in the 1970s, and it generally refers to the kind of infatuation or obsessive fixation we can have on people when our… Read more
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Approaching Grief Work
Approaching Grief Work What is grief? Grief is an emotional, neurological and physiological response to loss Most commonly we think about grief as a response to death, however other losses can also trigger grief such as divorce, relocation, loss of home, the loss of physical or cognitive ability, and the loss of freedom & rights.… Read more
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Emotional Regulation
Rethinking Emotional Regulation / Nervous System Regulation What is emotional regulation? In the Western psychotherapy world, emphasis is often placed on emotional regulation. When I talk about emotional regulation with my clients, what I am really referring to is nervous system regulation. But let me be clear– in many situations regulation is not reasonable to… Read more
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Resourcing
Resourcing For normative culture misfits, and everyone else. In trauma therapy, resourcing is a technique (or sometimes a set of techniques) aimed at helping people reconnect with the present moment and regulating their emotional responses. Essentially, resourcing helps bring people back into their window of tolerance. Outside of the therapy space, however, resourcing takes on… Read more
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New Year Reflection
New Year Reflection Hopefully with the holiday season behind you, you’ve found a moment to rest & recharge. If not, prioritize the recovery you may need, then set aside some time to reflect. Check out the slideshow to get you started, then continue the post below! Are you feeling the New Year Energy? As I… Read more
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Slowing Down
Slowing Down & Recharging Your Battery Winter is coming. Time to slow down. The holidays lure us into engaging in activities and speeding up the pace of life, but often what is needed this time of year is space to rest & recharge. What about all of our responsibilities? What about what everyone expects of… Read more
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Exploring Demisexuality
Exploring Demisexuality How comfortable are you explaining demisexuality? What is demisexuality? What are some misconceptions about it? How can it be challenging for people to navigate? Scroll through the gallery to get some preliminary ideas, then keep reading! Demisexuality is often misunderstood. Let’s do some myth busting! MYTH: Demisexuals don’t like sex Wrong! Demisexuals simply… Read more
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Managing Trauma & Triggers
Managing Trauma & Triggers Most of us are familiar with the basic trauma responses… fight, flight, fawn, freeze. But what is trauma? How do we navigate our own trauma responses? Can trauma be healed? Scroll for some ideas to get you started, then continue the post below… Let’s take a moment to ground our… Read more
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Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder
Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder Up here in the PNW things are starting to feel colder and darker, making way for seasonal depression AKA seasonal affective disorder. What is seasonal affective disorder? Does everyone get it? How can you manage it? What makes seasonal affective disorder different from the typical “winter blues”? It is common for… Read more
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Navigating Conflict Successfully
Navigating Conflict Successfully Are you comfortable managing conflict in your relationships? Conflict happens! How do we work with it? What happens if we habitually try to avoid it? What skills are important to effectively resolving conflict when it occurs? What happens when conflict is ongoing? How has conflict been modeled for you? One way to start… Read more